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Eighty days from year-end: a meditation on whether our endless motion serves purpose or avoids the uncomfortable question of what stillness might reveal about our sophisticated paralysis.
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We make decisions under pressure, and in those moments we convince ourselves we know which choice serves wisdom. Stay or leave. Anchor or depart. Remain in the office or travel to meet clients before the year closes. Yet what if neither urgency nor caution guarantees we are acting from clarity rather than defense? The psyche is cunning: it can dress paralysis as contemplation, or flight as prudence. When external forces demand choice but the right answer remains marginal, we face not a test of courage but a confrontation with the limits of our own certainty.
This morning, still anchored at Dihamri Marine Protected Area, Socotra 12Ā°36.00ā² N, 54Ā°11.80ā² E, I watch clouds build to the northwest. Dark bases, luminous edges, a system moving with purpose but unclear intent. The wind has shifted, carrying the metallic scent that precedes weather. I study the formations: will this track north and pass harmlessly, or veer south and catch me exposed? The forecast offers probabilities, not certainties. Other boats departed yesterday, seeking protected anchorage twenty miles east. Were they prudent or overcautious? And here I catch myself: the fact that I frame their departure as possibly overcautious reveals that Iāve already begun constructing the narrative that staying is wisdom. Iām building my justification before Iāve even made the choice conscious.
My hand drifts toward the chart plotter, calculating what departure would require: raising anchor, sailing three hours east, repositioning to less interesting but more protected water. The effort is real but not prohibitive. The benefits are speculative. This is the margin where decisions live: neither choice clearly wrong, neither obviously right. I could stay and call it contemplative discipline, trusting my ground tackle and the resilience of the boat. Or I could leave and call it responsible seamanship, honoring the possibility of weather I cannot perfectly predict.
But even as I lay out these options with apparent evenhandedness, I notice the language betraying preference. āLess interesting waterā already makes leaving sound like settling for inferior experience. āContemplative disciplineā makes staying sound like philosophical maturity. The narratives construct themselves so quickly I almost miss watching it happen. What if this entire meditation on choice is itself a delay tactic, a way of performing philosophical sophistication while avoiding the discomfort of simply deciding? I sit here analyzing my indecision with such intellectual care that the analysis becomes another form of not acting, dressed up as depth.
Culturally, we romanticize decisive action. The business traveler who drops everything to visit clients before year-end embodies commitment, we say. Yet I wonder if that traveler, racing through airports eighty days before deadline, is fleeing the discomfort of stillness as much as serving purpose. And simultaneously I catch myself again: framing their motion as possibly escapist lets me feel superior in my anchored contemplation. But what if my stillness is equally defensive? What if Iām constructing elaborate philosophical frameworks precisely to avoid admitting I might simply be afraidāof bad weather, of wasted effort, of making the wrong call and having to live with consequences?
We also romanticize considered restraint. The executive who refuses to react to every deadline pressure demonstrates wisdom, we say. Yet even as I write this, I recognize Iām building the case for staying put, using cultural critique as permission to remain at anchor. The analysis itself becomes the justification. I tell myself Iām holding complexity when I might just be paralyzed by the fear of discovering, three hours into the sail east, that the storm is passing north and Iāve repositioned for nothing. Or worse: staying here and watching the system veer south, realizing too late that I mistook analysis for decision-making.
Perhaps this is what it means to make decisions in the marginal space where most of life actually occurs. Not the clarity of genuine emergency, where action becomes obvious. Not the luxury of infinite time, where contemplation can unfold without consequence. But the uncomfortable middle: storm clouds that might matter, client relationships that might slip away, competitors who might already be moving while I sit here writing about the epistemology of choice. Even now, I notice how satisfying it feels to frame this as philosophical inquiry. The satisfaction itself feels suspect. Am I genuinely examining uncertainty, or have I found another elegant way to postpone commitment?
The real discipline, then, is not to choose correctly but to choose without the comfort of knowing I have chosen correctly, and without the comfort of delaying choice by calling the delay contemplation. To stay or leave, to travel or remain, to act or pause, recognizing that whatever I choose, some part of me will construct a narrative afterward that makes it seem inevitable. I will tell myself I stayed because I trusted my judgment, not because I avoided risk. Or I will tell myself I left because I honored prudence, not because I fled the discomfort of sitting with uncertainty. The storm will arrive or pass, and I will never know which version of myself made the choice: the wise one or the defended one.
Reflection
As the storm clouds continue their indecisive drift across the Socotra sky, I find myself still watching, still writing, still analyzing. And in this moment I must admit I have now spent two hours constructing an elaborate meditation on the impossibility of knowing whether staying or leaving serves wisdom. The meditation itself has become my choice. By the time I finish writing this, the weather window for repositioning may have closed. Is this depth or avoidance? I genuinely cannot tell.
Perhaps some decisions cannot be justified philosophically, only lived through and accepted. The question is not whether to stay anchored or seek shelter, not whether to travel eighty days before year-end or trust that relationships endure distance. The question is whether I can stop constructing frameworks about choice and simply choose, even knowing I might be wrong, even knowing I will build justifications afterward, even knowing that this very awareness of building justifications might itself be another justification for continued indecision.
What remains is the choice itself, stripped of the comfort of knowing it is right, stripped even of the comfort of sophisticated analysis about why I cannot know. To stay and accept that I might be defending against risk, or using contemplation to avoid action. To leave and accept that I might be fleeing from stillness, or using prudence to avoid sitting with discomfort. The competitor may already be visiting clients while I philosophize. The other boats may already be safely repositioned while I write about margins. Neither staying nor leaving proves I have chosen from wisdom rather than fear. Both require living with the possibility that I am wrong, and that I am using this very reflection to avoid finding out.
A quiet gratitude to the storm clouds that refuse to resolve into clarity, reminding me that most decisions live in margins where neither staying nor leaving proves we have chosen well, and to all who face year-end urgencies wondering whether their motion serves connection or simply postpones the question of what staying still might reveal about what they fear to encounter in themselves, and whether that wondering itself postpones the decision they need to make.
ā#WritingCultureā by Ellis Zeitmann @ ThinkZeit
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